My Fine Thin Hair Dilemma Journey

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Read about my personal thin hair journey, The Fine Thin Hair Dilemma! Fine hair styling tips & tricks from a former hair loss hair replacement technician. To read the whole series and more see my Fine Thin Hair page.

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The Fine Thin Hair Dilemma

Before I was a blogger, I was a hairstylist, my job was pretty unique. I worked in the hair loss business maintaining, cutting, and styling wigs and hairpieces. In this post, I am sharing my fine hair tips and tricks that I have learned throughout the years.  Plus how I am dealing with my baby fine and now sort of thinning hair.

This is not a sponsored post, but my true feelings on my own personal hair dilemma and product use. Join me for my story. My fine thin hair dilemma. 


First, let me begin with this, I have been a licensed cosmetologist since the late 1980’s. I also worked in the Hair Loss industry cutting and maintaining hairpieces and wigs for over thirteen years. I guess you could say I have pretty much seen and tried it all.

I have tried, used, and tossed out many of the countless fine hair products that are out there and would like to share my favorite drug store and salon finds with you. Then when you are finished reading this post you must check out Fine Thin Hair Dilemma Part 2 of the 3 part series for more tips. Halos, Wigs and Toppers Part 3 is where I talk about helper hair. I will show you the ins and outs of my fav wigs, toppers, extensions, and more.

female hair loss from overprocessing, 80s hair

The Beginning of the Damage

Let’s get started! One of the craziest decades was the eighties. Being a teenager back then meant having big hairstyles that stood sky high with many ranges of colors. Everyone had curls, perms ruled the era! Male or female we all had them. Excessive permanent waves and bleaching, unfortunately, damaged my hair and scalp.

Wait let’s back up a minute, my whole life I have had fine hair. I know from seeing my grandmother’s super baby fine thin hair and my mother’s fine thin hair that I was doomed to inherit their hair loss.

In the back of my mind I have always known that eventually, I would be sitting in the chair instead of standing behind it. Well, that time has come. (See Part 3 of the series).

Hopefully, this post may help some of you out who just like me have thin hair, hair that is hormone ravaged, or a medical situation. Sometimes the best ideas and tricks are shared between friends in the same situation. I am going to let you in on what I have found that works for me and in that it may help one of you out there with the very same issues or maybe we can just cry together.

The damage to my hair in my teen years from the eighties consists of Sun-in hair lightening spray, painting “on the scalp bleach” on my hair with a toothbrush to excessive highlighting and double processing. Double processing is when you have highlights and/or hair color then get a permanent wave on top of that. That’s a lot of damage, believe me, my hair has been felt like mush and broken off more times than I can count from extreme overprocessing.

To top that off, at one point I had hair extensions in the crown and front sections of my hair from the ears forward. The weight of the extension hair alone thinned the hair out around my hairline. It never recovered.

heathy hair before menopause, losing hair in menopause,

I still highlight to this day, but I now have to color my hair all over every couple of months because of the new pesky grays that are emerging. I could just stop the highlighting, but seeing my natural mousey brown color or a solid color freaks me out. It just isn’t me anymore. To me, having highlights or low lights make your hair color look more natural. Like the sun would normally do to your natural hair.

As you age and start getting greyer, mother nature adds the lighter grey hair around the face. This naturally softens the wrinkles around your eyes and face. Grey hair dyed too dark makes your wrinkles look deeper and more noticeable. I choose not to see any grey. I’d rather color the grey with a semi-permanent color to appear as if it is highlighted instead.

Hormone Issues and Hair Loss

My new hair dilemma is pre-menopause hormone thinning hair. I have noticed since I passed the fifty mark that my hair is changing and feels different. The texture has changed and it has a dry shredded look to it sometimes, which then leads to it breaking off. The breaking off of the hair then makes it seem like it doesn’t grow. The roots are somewhat normal but the ends break off too easily. Sound familiar?

I know this is due to hormones and the very stupid idea of trying birth control pills in my forties to relieve heavy periods. My body reacted wonderfully for the first year and then boom. My hair started falling out randomly in droves. Every time I had a fallout I would be devastated. I stopped taking the pills but my hair never recovered and still has “fall outs” to this day.

After quitting the birth control pills, I ditched my Gyno. I decided to take charge of my heavy periods. I found an amazing Gynecologist that’s specialty was menopause. She ran tests on my hormones and found out I was Estrogen dominant. She prescribed Testosterone and Progesterone and an IUD to fix my pre-menopause heavy periods.

I decided to go with the testosterone for only a few months. I felt fantastic, my muscles were reacting and I looked great. But the drawback is if you take too much your hair could fall out like male pattern baldness and your voice gets permanently deeper. Yikes! I was afraid to take the full prescribed amount and just quit it altogether after 1 month. She ran another hormone test and the little bit of testosterone I took leveled out my Estrogen. Thank goodness.

I took 100MG of Progesterone for almost two years and had an IUD. I am now off of everything and the IUD is out. So all in all, the progesterone/IUD combo fixed my heavy period issue. My hair is just not the same.

Thin Hair Solutions

Let’s just say I have never had the hair of my dreams, but I have pretty much killed what I do have trying to get it! Lol!

Most of the products I am using these days are from drugstores, salons, beauty supply stores, Ulta, and Amazon. Again, this is not a sponsored post. I provided Amazon affiliate links throughout the post, so you can read the reviews or purchase the exact product I am talking about. Using my affiliate link does not cost you a thing, it just helps to support my blog.

I’m obsessive about the latest and greatest hair fix. Anytime something new and great comes out, I read as many reviews as I can about it then usually end up buying it. So let’s get started with what I am into these days.

Shampoo & Conditioner~

On the days when I wear my hair toppers, I use Kristin Ess’s Deep Clean Clarifying Shampoo. It is the best clarifier I have ever used. It removes the build-up from root color spray and hairspray on my front hairline where the topper sits. It is not super drying like other cheaper clarifiers seem to be. I use a conditioner after. I love it!


One of my new favorite shampoo and conditioner combos are the Head and Shoulders Volume Boost line. I have tried regular Head and shoulders and it does not come close to the feeling your scalp gets with the volume versions. Lately, this has been hard to find in stores though. Fingers crossed they don’t stop making it. Get the separate here: Volume shampooVolume Conditioner.

Head Shoulder Shamp
Head Shoulder Cond

Thoughts on Hair Restoring Products

I am not a big fan of most of the new hair-thickening shampoo systems. Most of the time they are full of silicone, flake, and build-up. I also do not like sophisticated pricey hair systems that contain Minoxidil. They do work to grow and thicken the hair, but as soon as you stop using them the new hair that “grew in” will fall out. That would probably send me over the edge at this point. Plus they smell strange and when I sweat I smell mediciney. Yes, I made that word up! Maybe I’ll try them in the future if things start getting drastic.

My Secret Thin Hair Weapon!

A great new product I love is Loreal’s Le Color Gloss. I use the clear version on my human hair toppers to make the hair feel shiny and glossy when it was brand new. These come in colors as well. They make the hair feel fantastic!

My aging hair has become increasingly porous and soaks up any hairspray or style products I put on it. This gloss fixes that problem and more. This is a once-a-week use gloss that seals your hair shaft and adds shine. It gives your hair that great “fresh from the salon, just colored my hair” feel each time you use it.

Loreal Gloss
LE Gloss

Best Hair Products for Fine Hair

Hot Sets 400

Redken Hot Sets is also an all-time fav product of mine. It is a heat protectant/ setting lotion-type spray. You spray it on a section, then curl it with a curling iron and it holds until you comb it out. It really holds the curls for a while in my fine hair.

One of my favorite hairsprays is Big Sexy Hair Volumizing Hairspray 

I am a huge fan of Big Sexy Hair Root Pump. I spray my roots all around the crown area of my head and blow-dry. To me, it’s the best root pump for fine hair I have found yet. I use it as a mouse sometimes throughout my hair when I want my hair to stay curled tight to match my hair topper.

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Fav Heat Tools for Fine Hair

There are a ton of newer more expensive brand curling irons and hair wands on the market these days. My advice is to do your research and read reviews. Here are some of the brands I have used.

Hot Tools Curling Iron

One trick for curling fine is to use a professional-grade curling iron or wand, like Helen of Troy, Gold N’ Hot, or Hot Tools Professional Jumbo 1-inch Curling Iron brands.

These curling irons are game-changers when it comes to styling your hair. They get hotter and hold the curl longer than regular drugstore curling irons. These irons are one of the reasons why the styles from the salon last and the styles you do yourself at home do not.

Spend the money and get a nice one they are a life changer. These are my favorite irons for how to curl baby fine hair, use them to curl fine hair and make it stay in place.

My favorite hair wands are in a set I found online. It has multiple size wand tips and you just change them up to change curl size.

I bought it because it has a digital temperature gauge and I can control the heat. It’s great for hair toppers or wigs with heat-friendly hair to get those beach waves set just right.

Curling wand with attachments

I am not a fan of the ceramic curling irons. Although they claim to be better for your hair, they just don’t seem to work well on my fine hair. The curl just will not hold at all. I may try them again in the future, but for now, I will use the hot ones I mentioned above on a setting for fine hair.

NOTE: The professional curling irons can get super hot, so make sure you do not turn it up too high or it may burn your hair or even burn it off. Yikes. Make sure you always set them to the fine hair setting.

Velcro Rollers 2

Velcro rollers are the perfect hair rollers for thin hair. My routine when I am curling my hair with the curling iron is to spray each section with either hairspray or for extra hold I use Redken 22 Hot Sets Thermal Setting Mist.

Roll the curl and when it’s hot enough, let go of the curl from the curling iron and immediately roll that section up in a medium or large velcro roller. That way the hair stays in a curl position as it cools off.

When I finish with all the curls. I now have a head of velcro rollers. I spray them with a coat of hairspray, let them dry, and/or blast them with a hairdryer. I leave them in while I apply my makeup, get dressed, or whatever. Remove the rollers, then use your fingers to break up roller marks and fingerstyle! Spray, spray, and spray again.

This is pretty much my regimen for styling fine thin hair. I hope some of these methods and products will work well for you.

My Favorite Sunless Tanning Products

I originally wrote this post during tanning season. Here are my two cents about sunless tanning products. First, I love Mystic Tanning Booths and always get a few in the spring to start the season. Most places do a two for one for those of you, who haven’t tried a booth tan. It’s the best way to get your fake bake even, hands down.

My favorite self-tanning is Flawless Darker by Fake Bake. It comes with s hand mitt and gloves and goes on so evenly. The results with this particular tanner are exactly like a going to a Mystic Tanning Booth. The smell is not too unbearable.

I am able to put it on, put my clothes on and I am out the door with no mess.

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Where I Am Now

Before and after bio hair to hair topper, wearing a hair topper,

As of today, I am on a new journey, I accepted the fact that my bio hair will not be like it was in 2015, and no Dr. is going to give me a magic pill that will let me grow my hair back to what it once was. I have faced that fact and it is time to move on to getting what I want. Awesome hair.

I started wearing Hair toppers in late 2018 and it has been a learning experience even for me. If wearing helper is something you would consider do not miss part 3 in this series! Check out the Fine Thin Hair Dilemma: Halos, Toppers & Wigs.

But first, read part 2 of the Fine thin Hair Dilemma. There you will find more products I use and some interesting ways to conceal thinning areas, parts, or hairlines.


Now it’s your turn. If you have a great tip trick or remedy that works for you. Please post it in the comments below! I’d love to try it and/or hear your story!

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  1. I put all my hair on top of my head in a high ponytail then set it with 5 of my large hot rollers let them cool while I apply makeup then remove rollers flip head upside down brush then spray flip head finger smoothie then my hair is perfect and very thick looking ? Can’t wait to try your tips.

    1. Hi Sherrie,
      I will try this! Thanks for the tip!

  2. Where is the best place to buy natural looking wigs, halos, toppers. Can they be colored, highlighted or low lights to blend in with my natural hair. Thank you. I have been cursed with fine hair (it has a habit of curling up at the very end) all my life.

    1. Hi Mary, I mention my favorite online places at the bottom of my Wig, Topper & Halos post. You should check out the wig shops near you if you want to try them before you buy them. Otherwise, I would go through some of the websites I mention and see which wigs or toppers you like and then go to Youtube.com, type in the wig name and color and watch videos about them until you see one you like. They come in synthetic or human hair and the human hair ones can be colored to match your existing hair. They do both come in highlighted and rooted colors these days.

  3. Cindy Prince says:

    I just found your blog and I also have fine thin hair. On my own, I began using Biotin (the same one as yours) and the results have been awesome. I also stopped blow drying my hair everyday with a big round brush. I now use a brush similar to the one in your post and blow it to a smooth finish. One tip I can give you if you haven’t already found it for long lasting curls is the Caruso steam rollers. I love the quick easy way they go up and the curl that lasts. Thank you for your blog….sign me up.

  4. Janice Kennedy says:

    Hi Kim,
    I’ve found an amazing product line that over time is providing me with new hair growth. It’s called Nourish Beaute. I use their vitamins, shampoo, conditioner, scalp serum, brow and eyelash serums exactly as directed. Fine hair runs in my mothers’ family as well as thinning on top as we age. Nioxin and other products didn’t help and I tried them for years. I don’t expect to ever have that beautiful thick head of hair that those of us with fine thin hair dream about but I hope the Nourish Beaute products I’ve found will help me postpone using wigs or maybe not even need them. I loved your tips and will try some of them. Thanks!

  5. LISA MARSH says:

    Question: What type of brush do you use when blow drying? I read a comment but I can’t find where you reference it.


    1. Hi Lisa.
      I do not use a brush anymore. It is just too much pulling on the fragile hair. I hold my head upside down to get fullness. I used to use a soft bristle vented brush for height on the top. I hope this helps.

  6. Jaqueline says:

    I am struggling with ultra-thin hair and extremely dry and damaged hair. In the past week, I was tired dermalmd hair growth serum. I usually make about three drops. I massage the serum into the scalp. After using this product, my hair is no longer dry. I think my hair has become healthier.

  7. I would like to point out that the OGX Biotin Shampoo has a lawsuit against them for hair loss. As a matter of fact, many many shampoos have similar reviews of people losing their hair. I know this because my hair started to fall out in clumps from a few different shampoos, then I started researching. What I realized is that when I wash my hands with the shampoo, it makes my skin dry rough and scaly.
    So either it’s a coconut allergy, because most non sulfate cleansers are coconut derived. Or it’s something else. Either way, I do believe it’s what I was putting on my scalp. I switched to Dr Eddys Happy Cappy shampoo, and I avoid oils. Check your ingredients, and if in doubt, try your shampoo on your hands. If your hands have a bad reaction , it’s probably gonna do that to your hair.

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